Ko Olina looking toward Nanakuli Head, Oahu, HI, December 5, 2016

Ko Olina looking toward Nanakuli Head, Oahu, HI, December 5, 2016
Ko Olina looking toward Nanakuli Head, Oahu, HI, December 5, 2016

Monday, October 22, 2012

We Are All Connected -- Mon., Oct. 22

Beaver Ponds hike, Yellowstone N.P.--Bob, Jim, Peri
"When we die, our bodies become the grass, and the antelope eat the grass and so, we are all connected in the great circle of life."
~Mufasa, The Lion King


“Recognize that the very molecules that make up your body, the atoms that construct the molecules, are traceable to the crucibles that were once the centers of high mass stars that exploded their chemically rich guts into the galaxy, enriching pristine gas clouds with the chemistry of life. So that we are all connected to each other biologically, to the earth chemically and to the rest of the universe atomically. That’s kinda cool! That makes me smile and I actually feel quite large at the end of that. It’s not that we are better than the universe, we are part of the universe. We are in the universe and the universe is in us.”
~Neil deGrasse Tyson
"But I'll tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you'll come to understand that you're connected with everything."
~Alan Watts

What brought up this topic in my mind today is an article Bob showed me in The Huffington Post about friendship. The article is titled "Why Friends May Be Your Ticket to Living to 100" by David R. Hamilton, Ph.D. He makes the point that genetics only accounts for 20-30% of our longevity. Lifestyle accounts for another portion of how long we live. 

But new research done at Brigham Young University and an Australian study both indicate that something has been left out of the equation: friendships, connectivity, social contact. I highly recommend you read the entire article and his accompanying links to understand the full impact. 

In the past couple of days, Bob and I had been discussing how we'd like to make more friends while we're on the road and how to go about doing it. Isn't it interesting when an idea or problem comes into your consciousness, the answer shows up somewhere, somehow. Amazing we should see this article today.

Here is a quote from David Hamilton, Ph.D.'s article:
"We are wired for social contact. Our health thrives when we connect with each other and suffers when we are lonely. It seems that at the heart of all things, being connected sustains life.

"So one of the secrets to longer lifespan may be to get connected. It might mean having more regular contact with family or friends. For some, it might mean joining a club, taking up line dancing, or even starting a language class. It can mean making more of an effort to chat with neighbors or inviting friends around for dinner. It might even mean going out of your way to help others in need on a regular basis.

"There are many ways in our lives that we can improve how much we connect with others. When we do, we do ourselves a favor, but we do our family, friends, or anyone else we connect with, a favor too."
How about you? What do you do to meet people on the road? We came up with these ideas:
  • Walk around the campground and talk to people
  • Sit outside, talk to people who walk by
  • Meet blogger friends when we're in the same area
  • Hang out at the pool more
  • Go to social events at the RV park
  • Invite people over for a meal
  • Invite fellow bloggers/RVers to go walking or hiking 

The other idea that Dr. Hamilton suggested above is particularly relevant to me, "going out of your way to help others in need." I have been the recipient of truly awesome help and friendship after my fall. In my heart I want to "pay it forward" to others who may be in a similar plight.

I do believe we are all connected in ways we may never truly understand. I like thinking about it and then acting on it. Let's make our RV family even closer. I'm game. Are you?

Speaking of connections, we have new followers: Paul and Marti of R Sanity RV Adventures. Isn't that a clever blog name? They have been full-timing since December 2011 and have been all over the U.S. Paul is retired Coast Guard and Marti retired from being a nursing home administrator.

Kitty cat connection photo follows. Tune out now if you're not into the kitty pics.

I emptied out all the water from the case and put the empty container by the door for recycling. Bowie connected and walked the empty case all over the kitchen floor. Crazy cat!


"I have conquered the new thing."
Travel Bug out.


17 comments:

  1. Aw look at Bowie. What a cute boy. Just love the curiosity of a cat :)

    I love your ideas for getting connected on the road. It's been years since I've done any real traveling but I always enjoyed sitting outside and visiting with people who were out and about as well.

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  2. Bowie is such a goofus. Any new thing must be conquered.

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  3. That is the one thing my hubs and I are missing on our journey... real connections. We do the idle chit chat at campgrounds, but I think what we are missing is more than that... I'm off to read the article now! I like your ideas for more connections!

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    1. We haven't really haven't chit chatted much when we're camping. A lot of tiImes we're out sightseeing, hiking, walking, etc. and don't get home until late.

      And lately, even though I'm home, I haven't felt like being social with my jaw wired shut. Hard to talk and smile, plus my oral hygiene isn't what it was when I could brush the insides of my teeth... I'm looking forward to being more "whole."

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  4. We have met some fantastic people on the road. Normally though when we pull into an RV park for just a few nights it's to rest up and take a little relax time. Most of the RVers we've got to know well have been bloggers and those on forums. We do walk around the campgrounds and talk to others. That's fun and we learn so much but usually don't take part in social events at a park during short stays.

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    1. Another good place to meet other RVers is at rallies. We made some good friends at the RV-Dreams.com rally in April in Kerrville, Texas.

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  5. Interesting post. Social interaction is on my mind occasionally as it is the key difference between Hans and myself. I consider myself to be an introvert and Hans is quite social. I enjoy my alone/quiet time a lot, Hans needs regular social interaction to be happy (which makes him the primary "meeter and greeter" during our travels). While I agree that we all need social interaction (else we'd totally withdraw from society and become hermits) I believe that folks have different levels of social need...and that solitude is greatly under rated or even misunderstood by folks who are more outgoing.

    That said, it sure is easy to meet people while living the full time RV lifestyle! Lots of friendly folks out there. And having a blog doesn't hurt either for making new connections. I agree with your list of ways to meet on the road and would add volunteering, which we may do a bit of in a week or so at Best Friends Animal Society.

    Thanks for the thoughtful post! Lisa

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    1. Lisa,
      You said it, sister. I, too, am the introvert of the two of us and Bob is very social. I could have written exactly what you did above. In fact I started to, then looked at what you wrote and decided not to repeat you word for word.

      One of my bucket list items is to spend a week or a month volunteering at Best Friends. (Somehow I don't see Bob being excited about the prospect of spending a week there.) When my mom, sister and I took our three-week trip around the national parks of Utah, we literally stumbled upon Best Friends when we saw their billboard on the highway. We drove back and asked about a tour. Luckily March was not their extremely busy season and we were able to get on a tour within an hour and a half. All of us were so blown away by how huge that place is and the wonderful work they do there.

      Susan

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    2. :-) The older I get the more I realize that being an introvert is not so unusual...and the more comfortable I am in that skin!

      I'd love to give a week at Best Friends but Hans keeps mentioning 3 days...we'll see how it goes! Off to Zion tomorrow for a few days...Lisa

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    3. You and I need to go to best friends together. We could spend as long as we want...well, within reason because we'd miss our significant others. But then they wouldn't get bored at Best Friends.

      Something to think about.

      Susan

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    4. It will be interesting to see what he thinks once we go through the tour. We both miss our cat very much and I am hoping this will be a little animal fix to get us through the next month without her. We will be in San Diego starting 11/20 and that's when we'll be able to pick Rosie up from my parents.

      I hope you are recooperating well and that we get to meet in the future! We will be heading to AZ from San Diego in late January. Lisa

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  6. Oh yes, I so do know this, but I forget. Wonderful to be reminded in such an eloquent way. Thanks, Susan. I think Paul and Nina and Donna and Russ have learned the RVr connection thing very well!

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  7. When we settle into a campground, we walk around and see who might be out and about. We have met some interesting people during these wanderings but also must admit to meeting a few that we really did not feel we had a connection with. I believe this happens to all of us at one time or another. Also, when I see that some of my blogging friends are in the same area as we are, I will send an email or comment on their blog to see if they are receptive to meeting, without hopefully being too intrusive. We have met some wonderful people in the process, particularly Nina and Paul, who we have spent quite a bit of time with, along with a couple of their friends and a few others we have met on our own that we still meet up with periodically. This is such a great lifestyle to find new friends all over the country. :)

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  8. I think that you have hit all the connection ideas for RVers right on the head. If you sit outside with a cup of coffee, people will stop and chat. There are people to be met almost anywhere but someone needs to make the first overture. Usually a friendly hello will do it.

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  9. Admiring their dogs is always well recieved. People love it when you ask what kind they are or tell them how sweet it is. Dog walkers abound in the RV parks, and you can count on seeing them more than once!

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  10. Great post, Susan. I have mixed feelings about this though as I do like privacy when we're traveling. That may seem odd since I prefer RV parks to boondocking. I'll walk around parks a lot but unless I'm specifically invited to stop in somewhere, I usually will just nod, say hello and keep on walking.

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  11. I am totally there with you!I love my dog and so does everyone else (just about) that meets her! Thanks for the post.

    May I share with you what's been keeping me from reading and commenting on blogs lately?

    "This Restless Life: a study of Central Coast California parks through photography, interpretive collage and stories" is a book project of which I'm in the midst. If you have the time and the inclination, would you take a look at my short video at http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1778487749/this-restless-life?ref=email to learn more about the project? If you like the project, would you share it with your network of friends and family? Thank you sincerely. (I have a link to the video at the top of my blog page too.)

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